As part of our Signs of decline series, we look at the impact caring for an elderly parent can have on families. Increasingly adult children are caring for elderly parents alongside working and raising a family. While adult children often think it is their responsibility to support their parents, the extra responsibilities can put a strain on family life. There is help with elderly parents available and many care for the elderly options so we would always recommend that you start the conversations early.
Why are so many adult children caring for elderly parents?
There are several reasons why more adult children are helping care for elderly parents including:
- People are living longer, often with conditions that require support.
- Social care services are struggling with increased demand and reduced budgets.
- Many older adults want to continue living in their own home for as long as possible.
The strain of caring for elderly parents
Research by Yonder found that 79% of people aged 40-60 who are considering caring for an older loved one in the future are worried that they won’t know how to best support them. 69% said that they would find it hard to care for or support an older loved one while also continuing to work and care for their children. 74% of adults thinking about caring or supporting an older parent in the future said they would find it stressful.
Many adult children feel they have no choice but to care for their parents themselves and many believe that it is their responsibility to do so. However, caring for elderly parents can affect every part of your life.
- Work: it can be difficult to commit to a regular 9-5 job when your parents need care.
- Health: caring for loved ones can be stressful and, without support, can lead to anxiety and burn out.
- Relationships: the added stress of caring for elderly parents may put pressure on relationships with family and friends.
- Finances: paying for equipment, travel and other expenses can quickly add up.
How to care for yourself when caring for elderly parents
When caring for others, it is important to recognise your limits and allow yourself to step back when you need to. Caring for yourself is not a luxury, it’s necessary to enable you to continue caring for someone else.
Protecting yourself from burnout while caring for an elderly parent involves setting healthy boundaries, prioritising self-care, and seeking support. It’s essential to schedule regular breaks and maintain time for your own physical and emotional well-being, such as exercising, eating well, and getting enough sleep. Don’t hesitate to ask for help from other family members, friends, or professional caregivers to share the responsibility.
